Helping Kids Cope with Negative Feelings

As parents, it can be easy to dismiss our child's feelings, questions, or fears as silly or unimportant. We may think that what they are worried about is trivial or that we know better and can quickly solve the problem for them. However, it's crucial to remember that what may seem insignificant to us can be very real and significant to our children. Dismissing their emotions can lead to a lack of trust, insecurity, and even anxiety.

It's essential to take your child's emotions seriously and show empathy towards them. Even if their concerns seem small, to them, they are significant. Children experience the world differently than adults, and what may seem insignificant to us may be overwhelming to them. As a parent, it's important to validate their feelings, listen to them, and offer support and guidance.

When we dismiss our child's emotions, we send them the message that their feelings are not valid or important. This can make them feel unheard, unloved, and disconnected from us. When we take the time to listen and acknowledge their emotions, we build a strong and healthy relationship based on trust, understanding, and open communication.

When your child comes to you with a question, take the time to answer it thoughtfully and honestly. It's okay if you don't have all the answers. You can say, "I don't know, let's look it up together." By doing this, you show your child that their questions are important, and you value their curiosity and desire to learn.

If your child is afraid of something, don't dismiss their fear. Instead, try to understand where it's coming from and help them find ways to cope. This can be as simple as holding their hand, telling them you're there for them, or finding a creative solution to their problem.

Follow the below tips that can help you in your parenting journey:


  1. Embrace your child’s curiosity: Remember that kids are naturally curious and have a thirst for knowledge. Even if their questions seem silly or trivial, they are likely asking them because they genuinely want to know the answer. Encourage their curiosity and try to answer their questions as best you can.
  2. Don't be afraid to say "I don't know": If you don't know the answer to your child's question, it's okay to admit it. Use the opportunity to teach them how to find answers themselves by looking things up online or in books.
  3. Redirect their attention: If your child's silly questions are becoming overwhelming or distracting, try to redirect their attention to something else. Suggest a fun activity or game to play together, or offer to read them a story.
  4. Use humor: Sometimes, a little humor can go a long way in diffusing a tense situation. If your child's silly questions are starting to get on your nerves, try to inject some humor into the situation. Make a silly face, tell a joke, or come up with a ridiculous answer to their question.
  5. Set boundaries: While it's important to encourage your child's curiosity, it's also important to set boundaries. Let your child know when it's an appropriate time to ask questions, and when you need quiet time or space. Setting clear boundaries can help prevent your child's silly questions from becoming overwhelming.


In conclusion, as parents, we need to remember that our children's emotions, questions, and fears are real and significant to them. We need to listen to them, validate their feelings, and offer support and guidance. By doing this, we build strong and healthy relationships with our children based on trust, understanding, and open communication.