Why it’s Important to Validate Your Feelings of Sadness

All too often, we find ourselves acting as self-appointed judges of our emotions; passing verdicts on our feelings as either ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ Emotions that we tend to think of as ‘bad’ or negative, such as sadness, we tend to push away – viewing them as something to be avoided or hidden. However, in this blog, we’ll explore why it’s not only okay to feel sad but also why it’s crucial to validate and acknowledge these feelings when you’re experiencing them. At Takalam, we believe in the power of embracing our emotions, rather than pushing them away, as a crucial step on the path to mental well-being.


Validation is often the first step toward healing. Sadness, like any other emotion, is a valid human experience; it is not a sign of weakness or failure. In fact, acknowledging and accepting sadness is the first step toward gaining a deeper understanding of your emotions. Sadness is an essential part of our emotional landscape, and denying it or ignoring it can hinder our personal growth. Labelling sadness as ‘bad’ is akin to fighting against a fundamental aspect of human existence. Remember, experiencing sadness is a normal and essential aspect of being human.


In The Guest House, by Rumi, we are encourages to treat our emotions as visiting guests to our home; treating each with honour and dignity. Rumi implores us to meet these unexpected visitors (be they joy, shame, depression, or malice) at the door laughing and invite them in. Though, he warns, they may clear out your house, this can make way for a new delight to come instead. Greeting your emotions as guests – temporary visitors – allows us to be more gracious in receiving them. Sadness isn’t merely an inconvenient guest, it is a messenger trying to convey something significant. By greeting your sadness and listening to what it has to say, you can uncover the underlying causes of your emotional state.


In a world that often encourages us to stifle or dismiss our emotions, it's crucial to recognize that feelings, including sadness, are not inherently 'good' or 'bad.' They are simply part of our human experience. Validating your feelings of sadness is not an act of weakness; it's an expression of emotional intelligence and self-compassion. By acknowledging and understanding your sadness, you open the door to personal growth and healing. At Takalam, we are here to support you on your journey toward emotional well-being. Embrace your feelings, for they are an integral part of what makes you beautifully human.